Effects of Love Addiction

1. You are very needy when it comes to relationships.
2. You fall in love very easily and too quickly.
3. When you fall in love, you can’t stop fantasizing—even to do important things. You can’t help yourself.
4. Sometimes, when you are lonely and looking for companionship, you lower your standards and settle for less than you want or deserve.
5. When you are in a relationship, you tend to smother your partner.
6. More than once, you have gotten involved with someone who is unable to commit—hoping he or she will change.
7. Once you have bonded with someone, you can’t let go.
8. When you are attracted to someone, you will ignore all the warning signs that this person is not good for you.
9. Initial attraction is more important to you than anything else when it comes to falling in love and choosing a partner. Falling in love over time does not appeal to you and is not an option.
10. When you are in love, you trust people who are not trustworthy. The rest of the time you have a hard time trusting people.We all do crazy things for love, sometimes we humiliate or demean ourselves, but love addiction is a pattern of engaging in relationships that are unhealthy.

Whats Love Addiction

Those involved in a pattern of love addiction do not continue such destructive patterns knowingly. It is their absolute belief that the current person is the one that was meant for them, and that they will be together for the rest of their lives—defying all odds and obstacles, if necessary. The meaning that they derive in their own life is directly tied to this belief. In fact, it is in this irrational thought process that provides the eLove Addiction usually involves a pattern of frequent relationships that often begin with intense passion and which end relatively quickly. A variation of this is the involvement in long-term relationships with dramatic highs/lows, thus simulating a similar range of emotions as that found in short-term relationships.
Often, these relationships are staggered, with multiple, simultaneous relationships taking place at different stages within the unique pattern. As the pattern continues, the negative impact that the "low cycles" have on a person's esteem becomes greater and greater--creating a more definitive need for a new relationship (or new commitment to an ongoing relationship). Just as often, however, is a pattern where there is an absolute commitment to a single relationship—no matter how unhealthy and/or destructive that relationship becomes.
 motional comfort and stability that they seek. 

In it's extreme form, that of romantic delusions, love addiction can lead to the horrific stalking and violence episodes often portrayed in the news. Suicide and self-mutilation is also common in extreme cases. Most often though, love addicts tend to have an extremely low self-esteem, feel that their worth is tied to their current partner/relationship, and are often uncomfortable in social situations. Because of the personal sacrifices that they are so eagerly willing to make, more advanced love addictions tend to be accompanied by poor career development and impulsive financial management—though this is by no means a steadfast rule. 

One exception to this profile is the successful professional suffering from romantic delusions involving the rescue of someone in distress. In such a scenario, the love addict frequently fantasizes about walking into a fast food restaurant (or hiring a maid or some other person from a significantly lower economic class/culture) and falling instantly in love with this person--proceeding to take on the role of their savior.

LOVE IS CREATED BY HEART BUT MARRIGES ARE DECIDED IN HEVEN

Richard Gere's White Collar Crimes

Brit Marling and Richard Gere in 'Arbitrage.'

What went down Saturday at the Sundance Film Festival? Some juicy, star-filled movies that have acquisitions execs buzzing. Let's check in.

Arbitrage
Plot: An ultra-rich hedge fund magnate (Richard Gere) is trying desperately to cover up some financial misdeeds ... and then boom: He accidentally kills his mistress in a car crash. Now he's got to cover that up, too, and all the while, his wife (Susan Sarandon), daughter (Brit Marling), and a relentless detective (Tim Roth) are closing in on the truth.
Reaction: At first, Arbitrage seems to be hitting many of the same beats asMargin Call -- the rich panicking that they'll no longer get richer -- but that car crash energerizes the movie, which is tightly written and directed by Nicholas Jarecki. Gere's character thinks he's doing the right thing in covering up his crimes, since his family and investors will be devastated if the truth comes out ... and yet the longer the picture goes on, the more it becomes clear that he's simply covering his own ass and rationalizing each additional innocent he has to sacrifice. "Familiar but not stale," said THR's Todd McCarthy, adding, "it has strong commercial potential." The New York Post's Lou Lumenick went even further, calling Gere's performance the best of his career.

Robot and Frank
Plot: In the near future, a grown son (James Marsden) loses his patience for visiting his elderly, forgetful father (Frank Langella), and instead buys him a robot companion (voiced by Peter Sarsgaard). Ex-thief Frank, who spends most of his time visiting the library (run by Susan Sarandon), eventually warms up to his robot friend and finds a partner in crime. With Liv Tyler as Langella's globe-trotting daughter.
Reaction: First-time director Jake Schreier has taken a cutesy premise and turned it into a small, moving buddy comedy about the demise of human communication. The technological advances it imagines are low-fi and delightful. A real gem (and there haven't been that many so far at this festival), with Frank Langella giving a performance that should be rewarded long after he leaves Park City.

Bones Brigade
Plot: Stacy Peralta (Riding Giants, Dogtown and Z-Boys) flashes back to the 1980s to profile Bones Brigade, his team of wunderkind skateboarders that counted Tony Hawk, Rodney Mullen and Tommy Guerrero among its original crew. Between Peralta narrating and the team members, now in middle age, reminiscing, the film shows how Peralta groomed a group of relative unknowns into a team that "paved the way to make money in skateboarding."
Reaction: The skills and tricks are awesome to behold, even in grainy '80s footage, but it's not just about the tricks: This is as much a coming-of-age film as it is a sports documentary. The team members endear themselves to you as they tell tales from the good ol' days, while touching on the stress of being a teen (and contending with parents who disapproved of skate culture). It helps that these guys are extremely likable -- they're funny, honest and, in the case of Mullen, downright poetic. Bones Brigade is also an interesting account of the evolution of skateboard culture, from formal skate park competitions to backyard half-pipe parties to today's freestyle revolution. It's not Peralta's most riveting or adrenalized documentary, but it has a lot of heart.